During the start of COVID-19, I really struggled to stay inside, keep calm and feel connected with friends and family. It wasn't until about day 10 when I lost my marbles at the grocery store that I came to a realization.. I will not be going back to normal ever, there would be no normal again. Therefore, I could no longer be upset, frustrated or anxious about simply just living. I literally felt a light bulb turn on, my choice was to accept what was happening and use is as a tool for self reflection and development. From that day onward, I began to look forward to a new normal, and future.
Pre-COVID, I use to only see my daughter for 1-3 hours a day during the week, because of my 1 hour commute both to and from work. All I wanted was to be able to spend more time with her, educate her, play with her and be there for in the same way I did on weekends. It wasn't until I took a step back to analyze my light bulb moment that I realized that now was my time to do that. I shifted my outlook to focus on each day by developing a schedule for my daughter to learn, play and create. My focus became her, my partner but most importantly myself. I put more time to focus on self-care which I am certain will improve the relationship with my daughter as well as my partner.
Part of my self-care plan includes an increase in bath frequency. Don't get me wrong I still shower and clean myself on the regular but taking the time to soak was not part of my regular routine. These days, if my daughter is awake, I cannot go anywhere in the house without her being there, so my relaxing bath time has been incorporated with her nightly bath time routine. At least 1-2 times a week I join her and in doing so, use bubble bath, or a bath bomb to allow myself a few minutes to soak sore muscles, calm my mind and unwind before bed. I also use our vegan lotion to moisturize my body. Taking care of your skin is incredibly important. As I get older, I really value a good lotion to improve the look of my skin and fight off aging. My favorite lotion is Elegant Rose.
The silver lining in all this - I have never felt more connected to my daughter, partner and most importantly myself. Things that I thought were important before COVID seem a distant and vain reality. With the lessons learnt so far, I have re-established my values which will forever influence how I move forward after COVID-19.
If you are struggling to stay positive, develop a routine and take care of yourself, please feel free to comment or message me and I would be happy to share and discuss the steps I took.